Relationship & Sex Therapy · Connecticut
The desire to be close
is still there.
But you can't seem to reach each other anymore.
Relationship and sex therapy that centers patterns, accountability, and desire — not scripts.
We focus on what keeps happening between you — not just what you argue about.
For couples and polycules in Connecticut.
You're here because something isn't working — and you're tired of pretending it is.
- Fighting about the same things, or barely talking at all
- Having the same conversation over and over — and nothing actually changes
- One of you reaching, the other pulling away — and both of you are exhausted
- Feeling more like roommates than partners
- Avoiding intimacy because it feels easier than dealing with what's not working
- Wondering if it's still possible to feel chosen, desired, and safe again
You want connection that doesn't require performance.
Safety that makes honesty possible.
Intimacy that isn't one-sided.
That's the work we do here.
Approach
Every relationship is its own ecosystem.
Intimacy doesn't have universal rules.
Therapy here doesn't follow scripts or one-size-fits-all formulas.
We focus on what actually happens between you.
Desire, emotional connection, and patterns are treated as part of the same system — not separate issues to fix later.
How we work:
We move at the speed of trust — creating space to feel, not just think your way through.
This work is for couples and polycules ready to tell the truth about how they relate.
Not just ready to feel better — but willing to look at the patterns they'd rather avoid, and to examine their own role in how things function.
You don't have to do this perfectly.
You just have to be willing to stay when it would be easier to shut down, avoid, or walk away.
This work asks you to be —
- Willing to examine your own role — not just your partner's
- Curious about intimacy, desire, and emotional honesty
- Ready to move beyond surface-level solutions
- Willing to stay in the conversation even when it gets uncomfortable
You're a great fit if:
- All partners are emotionally safe to engage in joint therapy
- You value accountability without blame
- You're open to culturally attuned care that honors your lived experience
This practice does not offer individual therapy.
All work is relationship-focused.
The work takes different shapes.
What matters is that you don't keep living in the same loop.
All services are relational - this isn't individual therapy.
Each option offers a different way into the work.
01 ·
Couples Therapy
When every conversation turns into the same fight — or silence.
For partners caught in patterns of conflict, shutdown, or disconnection.
We slow the cycle down and help you engage differently — so you're not having the same fight on repeat.
02 ·
Sex Therapy
When intimacy feels distant, pressured, or avoided altogether.
Not focused on technique — but on the emotional and relational dynamics shaping desire.
For couples where intimacy has become something to avoid, endure, or perform.
03 ·
Relational Intensives
When you know something has to change — and you don't want to drag it out for months.
Condensed, high-depth work for partners who are ready to address what's not working.
Not for crisis - but for when continuing the same pattern isn't stainable.
Relationship & Sex Therapy
The Therapist
I'm Shamaree Brissett
Relationship & Sex Therapist · LPC, Connecticut
I specialize in relationship and sex therapy for couples and polycules — with particular attention to Black and POC clients, because intimacy, desire, and relational healing deserve to be held with cultural awareness, not just clinical protocol.
I help partners understand the patterns they keep getting pulled into - and shift how they engage with each other.
This isn't surface-level work. We're looking at what's happening underneath the conflict, and how it keeps repeating.
I know what it's like to search for a therapist who gets it. I searched for that kind of care myself and couldn't find it. So I became it.
Grounded in clinical care. Held with cultural awareness.
Couples often leave this work with a clearer understanding of their pattern, more honest communication, and a way to engage without falling back into the same cycle.
Clients often share that they feel —
Seen without needing to code-switch, explain, or perform.
Safe enough to drop the cape and be honest about what's hard.
Space to slow down and be present — not perfect.
Reflections on intimacy, desire, and relational patterns.
Non-monogamy doesn't create problems — it exposes what's already there.
The couples and polycules who navigate it well don't have it figured out. They just stay in conversation.
Read more →Pleasure isn't something you earn. It's not a reward — it's a right.
Somewhere along the way, a lot of us learned otherwise. This is what it looks like to unlearn that.
Read more →A lot of people come to couples therapy hoping it will fix their partner.
It doesn't work that way. But it can change how you relate to each other.
Read more →Practical Details
Virtual therapy throughout Connecticut. Private pay. Starting with a conversation.
First step
Complimentary 20-min consultation
Location
Virtual — CT residents only
Investment
$250 per 60-minute session
Superbills available upon request for potential out-of-network reimbursement.
What to Expect
The first session isn't about fixing everything
It's about understanding what's actually happening between you.
- Map the dynamic you keep getting pulled into — not just the conflict
- Make space for all partners without taking sides
- Begin identifying the pattern underneath it
You don't need to come in with the "right" words. You just need to show up honestly.
From there, we decide together what the work needs to look like.
Ready to explore
working together?
The next step is a complimentary 20-minute consultation - a space to talk through what's been happening and see if this feels like the right place to do this work.
You don't have to wait until things feel unbearable to reach out.
After the call, you'll know whether this feels like the right fit - and what moving forward could look like.